Struggles in the Orthodox Jewish shidduch dating system-A large-scale qualitative analysis.
Orthodox Jews
culture
mental health
religion
shidduch dating
Journal
Journal of community psychology
ISSN: 1520-6629
Titre abrégé: J Community Psychol
Pays: United States
ID NLM: 0367033
Informations de publication
Date de publication:
01 2023
01 2023
Historique:
revised:
25
12
2021
received:
05
10
2021
accepted:
16
07
2022
pubmed:
24
7
2022
medline:
15
12
2022
entrez:
23
7
2022
Statut:
ppublish
Résumé
Marriage is an important life goal and is highly valued among Orthodox Jews. Shidduch dating refers to the arranged dating system that is typically used within the community. Previous research and anecdotal evidence suggest that the shidduch system has become difficult and challenging for many individuals, yet there is a dearth of evidence on the subject. This study set out to explore issues related to dating and marriage within the Orthodox Jewish community using a large sample size. Participants included 889 Orthodox individuals across diverse demographic groups who responded to an optional question within a larger survey inquiring about their thoughts and experiences on the subject. An inductive qualitative analysis was conducted, and this paper focuses on the seven most prevalent themes that emerged. These themes include issues related to superficial criteria in mate selection, gender segregation, perceived surplus of females, pressure to marry before feeling ready, the formal structure of shidduch dating, the exclusion of specific groups from the process and lack of education in areas of intimacy and sexuality. This study is important in promoting clinical awareness regarding the struggles that many Orthodox Jewish daters face and underscores the need for communal change addressing these issues.
Types de publication
Journal Article
Langues
eng
Sous-ensembles de citation
IM
Pagination
486-506Informations de copyright
© 2022 Wiley Periodicals LLC.
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